Sorry to ask, but do you speak to your therapist/councillor about your use of social netoworking and it's affect on mental health (if it has any)?
no, she doesn’t know that I have a blog where I sometimes talk about my assault/mental health etc. one of the things she told me in our first session was that she didn’t think I should tell new people about my assault unless I’m in a serious relationship with them, because people don’t need or want to know about it and it should be private. I really don’t agree with that because it basically constructs assault as something I should be ashamed about? and it’s something that affects my life hugely so if I’m gonna start seeing somebody then I want them to know about that shit early on so I can see how they respond to it.
but anyway she obviously wouldn’t support the idea of me speaking about it to hundreds of people at once online. so I haven’t mentioned it.
We tell people they are “strong” when we are uncomfortable with their pain and would prefer that they shut up and not bother us with it. To say “but you are strong” is telling someone “I don’t think you should feel that way,” and it’s not a compliment. I don’t think that strength means being invulnerable, or pretending that you are. The belief that silence and stoicism are inherently good qualities is how you end up dressed up like a bat punching criminals in an alley – it’s not a good road to emotional health.
Be sad. Be angry. Let your heart break – in the diner, on someone’s futon, in the park, on the way to the zoo, at brunch, over drinks, in the therapist’s office, on the bus – Wherever it breaks, let it break all the way open, let it run out and down and spread out in a soggy puddle at your feet. Say, “I’m sorry, I can’t listen to you today, my heart is broken. Will you sit with me a while and I’ll tell you about it?“
Say, “I can’t take care of you today, but you can take care of me, and maybe tomorrow I will take care of you, and we can trade off like that for a while, okay?”
Say, “I love you, and I love that you think I’m strong, but I don’t feel like being strong today. I feel like being angry and crazy and sad. Can we go to the movies or just sit here quietly or take a walk or talk about it or not talk about it?“
Your friends may get scared when you do this. If you, the “strong” one can break, what does that say about them? That’s why they push back at you and try to remind you of your strength, when what you need is for them to stand by you in your pain and weakness. They don’t have to solve that pain, they just have to bear witness to it. Maybe they don’t know how – a lot of people don’t know what to do in the face of other people’s pain. They want to fix everything, and if they can’t fix it they feel inadequate. As the “strong” one you can help them out with this by saying “You don’t have to fix it. You don’t have to do anything. Just be with me, and listen, and love me, and I’ll love you back. That’s all I need – to know that you love me, even when I’m sad and scared and don’t know what to do next.”
“Being pregnant fucking sucks. All these fucking anti-choice fuckers who act like it’s no big deal growing a human INSIDE YOU for nine fucking months have obviously never been pregnant. It’s not a minor fucking inconvenience. Your body doesn’t feel like your own anymore. And you go to the doctors and you’re like “Umm why the fuck am I taking 7kg shits? And why are my gums bleeding? And why do I vomit every time I piss which is every three seconds” and your doctor is just like “oh this is just part of being pregnant”. And then everyone is like “Enjoy it! You need to embrace it. Eat healthy and get lots of sleep and you’ll be fine” or “I never vomited once when I was pregnant, have you tried yoga?”. And you’re like falling asleep at work and vomiting on yourself during meetings, while trying to do your job even though your brain doesnt seem to work anymore. And you can only just handle ALL OF THIS without having a nervous breakdown because you’ve been trying for a baby for four years and it has finally happened. Imagine if you didn’t want it? It would actually be torture. And yet these anti-choice assholes are always like “It’s just nine months, then you can adopt it out” etc. I would write a post about it, but I can’t. Because I’m so fucking exhausted I feel like my face is going to fall off, even though I had a four hour nap today. I actually want to set fire to everything right now. I want to stab the world in the face.”
It's really strange, you always act so friendly toward me and say hey to me in public when I know that you don't like me and that you say so much shit about me behind my back. And surely you know I don't like you... Why be so fake?
lol what even is this message
why don’t you tell me who you are so that next time I see you I can say all this shit I’m apparently talking to your face instead of attempting to be polite and respectful?
I can’t even think of anyone who fits this description so you probably just fell for some bad information, sorry
well I have had an AMAZING monday
I woke up barely hungover, submitted my final assignment for this semester, slept in, got a delicious lunch with christie before we sat in a park in the sun and talked for hours, then got coffee and now I’m going home to hang out in bed all night.
I sincerely apologise to everyone who isn’t me today
HERE’S A SHORT ANIMATION OF ME PUNCHING THIS SEMESTER IN THE FACE
SHOUT OUT TO STEADY-NOW FOR PROVIDING ME WITH THIS GLORIOUS GIF
I HAVE WAITED SO MANY WEEKS TO USE IT
I WILL NOW RETURN TO BED FOR BLISSFUL SLUMBER BEFORE SMASHING OUT AN 8 HOUR SHIFT, AND YOU CAN BE SURE THAT THE MINUTE I FINISH THE SHIFT, I WILL BE FORCING AN ENTIRE ALCOHOLIC DRINK RIGHT DOWN MY THROAT
“We often talk about the “school-to-prison pipeline” for boys —but for girls, it is a totally different narrative, more readily identified as the “sexual-violence-to prison pipeline.” According to the Office of Juvenile Justice Delinquency and Prevention, approximately 600,000 girls are arrested in the U.S. annually. Most of these girls are remanded for non-violent offenses such as truancy, running away, loitering, alcohol and substance use, and violations to prior court orders for non-violent status offenses. Moreover, evidence shows that 73 percent of girls in juvenile detention have previously suffered some form of physical or sexual abuse. This abuse is often the factor that propelled the child into the juvenile justice system, as it is often the abuse that is the root cause of the girls’ running away, becoming truant, substance abuse, etc. Family court judges and detention center staff are rarely provided appropriate trauma training and are generally unaware of the damaging impact of policies such as strip searches, physical restraints, and particularly solitary confinement on survivors of physical and sexual abuse and trauma. There is a growing body of evidence that demonstrates the severe psychiatric consequences of placing individuals, and particularly children in solitary confinement. Prisoners who have experienced solitary confinement have been shown to engage in self-mutilation at much higher rates than the average population. These prisoners are also known to attempt or commit suicide more often than those who were not held in isolation. In fact, studies show that juveniles are 19 times more likely to kill themselves in isolation than in general population and that juveniles in general, have the highest suicide rates of all inmates in jails. Despite all these facts, when girls in the juvenile justice system express evidence of or the desire to self harm, the typical response is to put them in solitary confinement. While these girls are being placed in solitary for their own protection, there is no consideration given to the fact that such practices deepen existing trauma.”—Invisible Prisoners: Why Are So Many Girls Placed in Solitary Confinement? (via thetart)
What do you think of people that do deviant things, such as take photos of themselves makes and send it to friends of the same sex, then screen cap and publish the naughtiness on every social networking site known to man?
I’m so confused, I don’t know if I am supposed to know who you are talking about because I do not haha
as long as people are doing that shit with the consent of whoever’s naked body is involved then it sounds like a good old time to me?
let people have fun anon
if you don’t wanna see naked bodies you can just delete or unfollow them but it doesn’t sound like anyone is being hurt in that situation so I don’t see the issue!
edit: someone just informed me as to who this is supposed to be a dig at, why you trying to pitch me against my friends anon, this is silly.
Lil Jon always seemed like such a go getter. Like, if he wasn’t extremely enthusiastic about or incredibly confused by something, he was calling shots and just telling you what to do. All the time. That’s his songs. Telling people to do things. Bend over to the front and touch your toes. Snap your fingers. Rub that shit, it’s yours, bitch. Get me a glass of pink lemonade. That last one’s not actually a Lil Jon lyric but if he said it you can be damn sure he’d have a tall glass of refreshing delicious pink lemonade in his hand by the end of the song.